Vibrators get a bad rap!

When it comes to sex: some men treat women as objects; some women treat objects as men.

Mokokoma Mokhonoana

Well, it’s the 24th, Christmas Eve and Santa has loaded up is sleigh and he is officially on is on his way \o/! There’s a certain feeling I get every Christmas Eve, I think it’s a piece of Childhood that never really went away, it’s a mix of anticipation, excitement, wonder and joy! I still leave a glass of brandy and a mince pie out for him and a carrot for Rudolf and it’s always gone by the morning, (back in the fridge or in the mince pie tub, the brandy, that’s never wasted!).

Anticipation – wondering what I’m going to get, hoping my friends and love ones like what I’ve bought them! There’s actually a great deal of excitement about something I sent to Santa for…... errrr… me! I’ve asked Santa for a Lovense Dolce and I’m very excited about it arriving! What is it I hear you say, well, here’s the link, but essentially, it’s a Bluetooth Enabled, remote controlled vibrator!

At this point some of you will have recoiled in horror but… hang on a second, in my humble opinion, vibrators have taken a bad rap. Truthfully, they can be the most useful and easy tool in a woman’s sexual arsenal. And yet, vibrators have been relegated to the side-lines. Is it because sometimes women think of them as “kinky?” Is it because women are afraid that the use of a vibrator will make their partner feel inadequate? Is it because women feel like there is something wrong with them if they use a vibrator? Is it because they are afraid that they will become dependent on a vibrator?

The reality is that vibrators are not “kinky,” (whatever kinky is…frankly I haven’t heard a great definition for it; mostly it seems to be a word used for something you haven’t really tried yet) and there is nothing “wrong” with a woman who uses one. Vibrators aren’t just for masturbation; they are often used in partner sex as well, either before intercourse, after intercourse or instead of intercourse. The beauty of this little gadget is, you can use it with your partner in Second Life, no, you can, there’s an app and everything!

The bottom line is that a vibrator can give a longer, stronger level of stimulation than a hand, a mouth or a penis can. Here’s one of my favourite statistics (and once you hear it from me, I promise it will start to blink at you from everywhere) : 30% of women can have an orgasm from a penis in the vagina alone. 70–80% of women can have an orgasm from a hand or a mouth. And a whopping 94% can have one with a vibrator – 94%!!

For some women, a vibrator is just necessary. As they get older it becomes harder to have an orgasm and the vibrator makes it easier (or possible.) Because having an orgasm is so much easier for them, many women in this situation talk about how “it takes the stress out.” Some of them describe a situation where during sex they had been so focused on “getting to the orgasm” and “what happens if I don’t have one?” that it had taken the fun out of sex and the vibrator let them relax and enjoy themselves. Here’s some sagely advice I was given: If you are in this category of women, use the vibrator when you are having sex with your partner, it will make the sex more fun and less stressful. Your partner won’t have to “work so hard,” you won’t feel so guilty for making your partner “keep at it,” and your orgasms will probably be stronger!

For some woman a vibrator is not necessary, it’s just easier and faster. And you know what, for whatever reason easier and faster may be important at this time in their life. (Ever try having sex after you put your 2-year-old to bed and before your new-born wakes up for a feeding? Trust me, it gives new meaning to the term “quickly”). And for some women, a vibrator is just plain fun!

And don’t tell me that a vibrator is “unnatural.” Cobblers!! So is the electric light bulb. We don’t live our lives by candlelight in an attempt to “remain natural.” Use the vibrator if you like it.

So… what’s stopping you? The bottom line is that vibrators make having orgasms so much easier and in many cases more intense. They also may make it possible for many women to have more than one orgasm. So, if you think you fall into any one of these categories, go back and dust off your old vibrator, there’s one in the back of the closet, and you know it(!). Or better still go find yourself a new one, and have fun!!

What’s on this week?

Head & Eyes – LeLUTKA EvoX AVALON 3.0

Hair – DOUX - Octavia Hairstyle [S/Boobs]

Face Skin – *YS&YS* Rosalie T02 NOBrows - BOM (EVOX+Maitreya)

Body – Maitreya Lara V5.3 - Skin *YS&YS* Rosalie (Avalon)

Nails – Ascendant - Twinkle Little Bitch Fatpack - Maitreya

AO – Vista Animations *HUD 5.34* - Mara Bento AO-V1

Shape – My Own Shape

Earrings – Celtic Myst - Mistletoe Earrings, (They were a group gift!)

Rings & Hand Chain – (Yummy) Celebration Collection [Lara] @ Collabro88

Wedding Ring – ~~ Ysoral ~~ .:Luxe Wedding Ring Malie:. (Maitreya)

Christmas Jumper & Stockings – *CK* Joyful rudolph sweater MAITREYA