Finding out I had ADHD in my late 40s and how it changed my life and perspective

Lisa Figueroa
6 days ago
4 min read

Why fit in when you were born to stand out?

Dr. Seuss

Discovering I had ADHD at age 47 felt like a mix of relief and awakening. For years, I battled feelings of confusion and frustration, often questioning why some parts of my life seemed more difficult than they should be. This diagnosis was the missing piece I needed to finally understand my experiences. Whether you’ve just learned about your ADHD or are curious about its effects later in life, I invite you to join me on this journey.

Reflecting on my life leading to the diagnosis, I noticed countless traits consistent with ADHD. While my classmates found school easy, I faced challenges daily. I often forgot homework, lost belongings, and struggled to focus, both in class and during group activities. Despite these hurdles, I somehow managed to get by - though it felt more like surviving than thriving.

As an adult, this cycle continued. My professional life was a series of unfinished tasks and incomplete ideas, leading to low self-esteem. I often felt like I was chasing deadlines, but just couldn’t catch them.

The Impact of the Diagnosis

Receiving my ADHD diagnosis felt like lifting a heavy burden off my back. Realising my struggles weren’t because I didn’t try hard enough but were due to a neurological condition was liberating. Research shows that nearly 60% of adults with ADHD aren’t diagnosed until adulthood, and many share my feeling of relief upon getting that answer.

The diagnosis encouraged me to reevaluate my behaviours and habits. My impulsivity wasn’t recklessness; it was how my brain worked. This shift in perspective allowed me to approach my life more compassionately. Instead of criticising myself for being forgetful or disorganised, I began to appreciate these traits as part of my identity.

Embracing Treatment and Support

One of my pivotal steps post-diagnosis was seeking treatment. Initially, I hesitated to consider medication, but I soon recognised its potential benefits. After a few months of finding the right dosage, I noticed significant changes in my focus and productivity. Tasks that once overwhelmed me became manageable, and I completed them with newfound energy.

Therapy also played a key role in my journey. Speaking with a counsellor helped me address emotional challenges related to ADHD. I learned valuable strategies, from effective time management to improved communication in relationships. No longer was I a ‘flaky’ friend; instead, I became a person who understood my limitations and found ways to work around them.

Reconnecting with My Passions

Understanding my ADHD gave me the motivation to reignite my passions. For years, I had shelved my love for creative writing and painting due to my focus issues. However, once I began managing my symptoms, I embraced these activities again. I set aside two evenings each week to write or play the piano or guitar, (badly!), experiences that offer valuable outlets for self-expression. This rekindled enthusiasm sparked a sense of fulfilment that I had long missed.

Navigating Relationships

The diagnosis extensively impacted my relationships. Whether with friends, family, or partners, I realised my ADHD influenced my interactions. I began to communicate my experiences more openly. By explaining my challenges - like forgetting plans or being overly sensitive to criticism - I encouraged my loved ones to be more understanding and patient. This honesty led to deeper connections, allowing me to feel accepted rather than judged.

Changing My Perspective

Receiving my ADHD diagnosis altered how I viewed myself. Rather than fixating on my weaknesses, I began to focus on my strengths, such as creativity and the ability to think outside the box. I learned that my unique brain wiring brought valuable perspectives.

Moreover, I felt compelled to advocate for myself and others. Many individuals remain unaware of their conditions, suffering silently. My journey inspired me to share my story and contribute to discussions about adult ADHD, helping to break down misconceptions surrounding it.

Finding Community

Building a support network was fundamental to my process. Engaging with online forums and local groups helped me feel less isolated. Encountering others who shared similar struggles reinforced the notion that I was not alone.

Hearing their stories and coping strategies equipped me with additional tools to manage my ADHD. The sense of camaraderie reminded me of the power in shared experiences and collective learning.

Embracing New Beginnings

The implications of an ADHD diagnosis later in life can be challenging, but they can also spark profound transformation. My journey of self-discovery and acceptance led me to appreciate my strengths while embracing my challenges.

If you find yourself in a similar situation, know that it is never too late to seek understanding or take steps toward managing your ADHD. Embrace your unique quirks! Remember: you are not alone! Finding clarity and connection can lead to a fulfilling life full of passion and purpose, regardless of age.

Take that leap - your life may just change for the better.