Another Wedding Invitation Thuds onto the Hall Carpet!
Joy of joys, yet another August lost to flat, warm bubbly and being forced to witness god-awful Dad-dancing to Jeff Beck belting out; “high ho Silver Lining”! But you can’t not go, can you?
A friend of mine was having a bit of a rant the other day, turns out she’d just had an invitation to her fourteenth wedding in the last three years - (Oh to be so popular!). However, the more I listened the more her rant started to make sense. She and her boyfriend live around two hours away from each other, subsequently they don’t see each other nearly as much as they’d like, so when every other weekend in June, July and August involves independent travel to some god forsaken place up and down the country to celebrate someone else’s relationship I was starting to understand why she was going bananas!
Given that each wedding (the travelling, accommodation, presents, and naturally, new dresses) can add up to about £500, and counting, that's over £7,000 spent on other people's weddings. Seven thousand pounds!!!
They do say once you've been to one wedding, you've been to them all. Try 14! Fabulous and great fun they may be, but the endless talk and preparation leading up to them, let alone the rituals couples must endure on the day (first dance, slice the cake, toss the bouquet, blah, blah) can become tedious to say the least!
For my friend though, it’s not really the expense or the repetitive rituals, it’s the fact that for at least one summer she and her partner would really like to be able to control their own diary for once – they’d like to go to their favourite restaurant on a Saturday night, they’d like to slip away on a weekend in Barcelona together or more likely, spend the odd sunny, warm Sunday morning snuggled up in bed!
This school of thought comes with consequences; for example, if and when you don't go to Jane and Phil's wedding but you went to Graham and Diane's - all part of the same circle of friends - it sends the message you like Graham and Diane more than Jane and Phil. No matter how good your excuse is for not turning up (surely, you'll have an excuse, not just say, 'hey, I can't be bothered with your wedding'), this is awkward. Picture all the Christmases and reunions to come when people start talking about Jane and Phil's wedding, and when it will be casually thrown back in your face that YOU WEREN'T THERE.
This could, actually, be more annoying long-term than if you just bite the bullet and attend.
And what of those of us who suffer from FOMO (fear of missing out)? What if Jane and Phil's wedding was actually the best ever and you missed it!! How annoying would that be! Can you really risk it?
Plus, what are you supposed to do about wedding presents? Should you still send a wedding present, even though you're not going? You did for Graham and Diane - why ignore Jane and Phil? You'll therefore not get out of spending what you'd normally spend on presents, but you get no free booze and cake in return.
I was married. I loved being married. My wedding day was the best day of my life. That's because all of my friends and family were there. Without them, it wouldn't have been nearly as amazing. That's why we plan so far in advance, to make sure they can be there on our big day. And that's why you have to do the same for them, when their turn comes. You just have to.
By the time you're on your fourth glass of bubbly, you'll inevitably start to forget why it was you didn't want to be there in the first place.
In any case, this period in your life, where all your friends are getting married in what seems like every summer, won't last forever. Soon, they'll all be having babies. You'll be invited to baby showers and dinner parties where all you talk about is nappy rash and bottle feeding. I know which party I'd rather be at! 😊
Not really wedding attire but here’s what I’m wearing;
Head & Teeth - .LeLutka. Head.Simone 2.6
Eyes - CATWA UN-RIGGED EYE V1.1 - (Custom eye texture)
Hair - Exile:: One Way or Another
Eyebrows - Glam Affair - Katya suggest eyebrows 01
Skin - LURE: Emily (Carnation) - Currently Exclusive at the 2017 Skin Fair, first half is here, second half is here - Great Event, but don't go thinking you won't spend anything!!
Ears - L'Etre - Olympe Mesh Ears
Body & Feet - Maitreya Mesh Body - Lara V3.5
Hands - VISTA PROHAND V.1 FINAL
AO - VISTA ANIMATIONS *HUD 4.14*MIRIAM BENTO AO-V1B
Physics - 2.- Sutile -Subtle.~ Physics by Temptation
Shape - Custom Made
Tattoo - Nomadic Owl - Black [CAROL G]
Bindi - .:ellabella:. Kerli V2 dark-nose
Shoes - -KC- CAGLIARI WEDGES / PAIR
Choker - .BF. Leather Choker Gold Light
The pose in this pictire is another great animation that fully exploits the capabilites of the Bento hands, it's by L y r i u m It's called Cheeky Pose, works with Bento hands and you can find it here
