Experiencing Female Ejaculation Part 2!

Squirting isn’t easy, it has to be said. Then, neither is riding a unicycle. Just as some people sweat more than others, or eat more than others, some girls erupt in surging geysers of vaginal fluids with greater facility and in more generous quantities than others.

Chloe Thurlow, A Girl's Adventure

Last week I wrote about the elusive, mystical female ejaculation, thanks for all your responses! Last week was all about defining the phenomenon, this week[AS1] I’m going to write about some tips for experiencing female ejaculation – yes, there are things you can do to give yourself a good chance of making it happen!

To recap – also referred to as squirting, female ejaculation is an exciting topic these days. That’s probably because the anatomy of female pleasure is a relatively new focus in the scientific community and because female sexual liberation is becoming less and less taboo. We’re discovering more and more about the g-spot and all other things female pleasure. Thank the lord Harry!

Here’s seven tips identified by Ashley Encantada, holistic relationship & intimacy coach, that should get you on the right track!

“Make sure both partners feel safe, comfortable and cared for. This is always my first piece of advice when advising folks on how to have better sex. Great intimacy starts with great communication and feelings of security. These feelings are achieved in different ways by different people. Before obsessing over orgasm, make sure you know what your needs and standards are in intimacy.”

“Take time before entering the vaginal canal! Even before inserting a finger or toy, the vagina needs to be warmed up. This means that everything from setting the mood to starting with a light body, breast, womb or yoni (Sanskrit term for female sex centre meaning “sacred source”) massage to playing sexy music to having a delicious make out session to some gentle clitoral play might be in order before actually penetrating the vaginal canal. Take your time and enjoy the process of arousal.”

“Locate the g-spot. It is often described as having ridges yet being in spongy texture and located about two inches up on the anterior wall of the vaginal canal. Once found, the pressure applied in order to stimulate the g-spot should start out light and gentle. If stimulation is too uncomfortable or too painful, I recommend taking a course on yoni dearmoring which focuses on memory and trauma release of anything stored in the vaginal and sex centre tissues.”

“Using fingers or toys made specifically for the g-spot. Begin exploring movements to determine what feels best. Sometimes, tilting the hips forward or back to find the right angle can be helpful while the g-spot is stimulated in circular movements, up and down or side to side.”

“Breathe deeply and make sounds. The reason tantrics are so familiar with this particular type of orgasm is because it is achieved when a woman is open emotionally, free of anxiety and feeling completely safe to express herself as comes naturally. These are all characteristics that, if holding onto any harmful emotions, a woman may not be able to access within herself. Breathing and sound based practices help people move through and release harmful emotions that would otherwise hinder their experiences of pleasure. (Pro tip: Sound and breath can assist in achieving any and many types of orgasm, not just Amrita orgasm).”

“Stimulate the clitoris or stimulate the most desirable parts of the body, too. More blood flow to the genitals as a results of heightened arousal equals a more engorged vulva and vagina which equals a lot more water to capture through the urethral sponge! I bet you can guess what that means? Yep, a higher likelihood of experiencing the exciting, elusive and unique phenomenon of female ejaculation!”

“Take your time. This message is many-fold. With Amrita orgasms, you can practice edging to build your waters. That’s right, women can practice orgasm edging as well! Build a swell in the g-spot area and move the focus to another pleasure point. You also want to take your time with your touch, as described above, however most importantly there should be absolutely no pressure to ejaculate or “perform” on a woman exploring this new and completely natural experience. The timing of Amrita has many components, such as the state of her emotions and the comfort with stimulation. Any pressure, expectation or fear of disappointment can and most likely will prevent a g-spot orgasm from happening.”

So, now that you have a few very helpful hints, (thank you Ashley Encantada, my new heroine!), it’s time to get started on your blissful journey to female ejaculation! I would love to hear if this article helped you in discovering your own Amrita orgasm experience. Feel free to email me in the usual way!

Oh, and one more thing - you might want to lay down a few towels! Happy squirting!!

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